A Successful Relationship?

        The process of translating this huge feeling of love into simple words is a hard task to do. Nevertheless, investigating its manifestations in relationships can be attainable. Any relationship based on love certainly witnesses ups and downs and in most of the time goes through rough obstacles that are really hard to surmount. Whenever we  see couples outside happy ,hugging , laughing ,walking hand in hand , We immediately judge them to be happy and having no problems at all , but is that really the case? does this majestic sentiment of love undertake shallow judgments? No one really can guess . As my title suggests here, I am going to talk about relationships, love relationships in particular, what makes a relationship successful?  Sacrifices? Mmm who tends to make more sacrifices than the other? Is it true that in each and every relationship there is someone who loves more, gives more and cares more? If this is the case can  a love relationship be successful?

          Well, taking my own experience as a starting point , I see that what is more important than love  is understanding. When  you understand your partner and indulge into his being , his essence , his soul how he thinks how he perceives things  , what he likes and what  he doesn’t like ,his way of expression , the purity of his feelings , his innocence , faithfulness .. All these things that  may seem superficial  to some, can shape a crucial turning point in any relationship. 

 

       When  you understand your lover , the first thing you want to do is making him happy , making him at his best whenever he is with you since  love is the desire to extend yourself – at whatever personal cost – for the purpose of nurturing the growth and furthering the dreams of another individual. Love is effortful; it involves personal sacrifice, and it grows slowly. Love is not about "me" what I can have? it's about "you” what can I do to make your life richer?  So what makes love, a real one , is not caring about the amount of benefit I can get out from my partner , and when I mention the word  “benefit” it is purely free from any materialistic pursuit.

        Some of us tend to think that they love from the deepest bottoms of their hearts. But do they really act according to that? well ,as I mentioned before ,  love isn’t about how much happiness can I generate from being with a certain person , it is rather how much happiness can I produce to make my partner satisfied. If every couple thought this way and killed the snob ego inside, there would be no broken hearts, no burning tears and no aching silent cries. To love someone, is to accept them as they are, and if there have to be some changes , they shouldn’t affect the nature of that person , because after all , it’s what made us fall for them in the first place.

   The gist of all this can be summarized in one simple sentence: understand your partner. When you understand your lover, when  you know him more than anybody else, when you embrace him the way he is , when you make him happy just because his happiness is the reason of yours , you reach to the top of loving “ the unconditional love” which  is- in my opinion- what  makes relationships successful and long-lasting .